If there is anything in life, or about you yourself, that is undistinguished by you (is invisible for you), you have no access to it, and therefore you cannot do anything about it.
That which is undistinguished is out of your control (functions without your permission) and as a result when it is triggered it constrains and shapes your way of being and acting. And, because it is undistinguished, you don’t even know that your way of being and acting are being constrained and shaped. Because you have no access to those ways of being and acting, you can do nothing about them.
When what is undistinguished is triggered, you are on automatic and don’t even know that you are on automatic – you have no choice about the way you are being and acting.
In short, what is undistinguished runs you. In the Being A Leader Course, among the constraints distinguished are rackets, already-always-listening, change-blindness, winning formulas, and compensations for failures, and the way-you-wound-up-being. From Erhard et al (2022)
Erhard, Werner and Jensen, Michael C. and Zaffron, Steve and Echeverria, Jeronima, Course Materials for: ‘Being a Leader and the Effective Exercise of Leadership: An Ontological/Phenomenological Model’ (October 4, 2022). Harvard Business School NOM Working Paper No. 09-038, Simon School Working Paper No. 08-03, Barbados Group Working Paper No. 08-02, Available at SSRN: https://ssrn.com/abstract=1263835 or http://dx.doi.org/10.2139/ssrn.1263835